I wear these cool guy shades to hide the constant flow of tears

I have an uncle who says things like, "I'm sorry, but if you have sex without a condom, you have to deal with the consequences!" He's absolutely livid about abortion. But I think he doesn't appreciate how common reproductive coercion is. The most obvious version is simply refusing to use a condom and refusing to pull out. A subtler one is withholding birth control from women via public policy via voters like my uncle, which strikes me as awfully ironic.

As far as my uncle is concerned, he's speaking for god. To me, he looks like the guy honking his horn in crazed anger at the car not moving in front of him. If he calmed down for two seconds, maybe he'd see that the car in front of him is waiting for a pedestrian. The man blaring his horn thinks he's a great driver and everybody else is idiots. In fact, the man honking can't think more than 1 step ahead, and is therefore a terrible driver.

I'm describing the Dunning Kruger effect, basically, where somebody is so bad at their job that they can't even tell who is good at the job, and therefore they have wildly inflated opinions about their own abilities. I get the sneaking suspicion that's the case for a lot of religious leaders like my uncle, who feel like they've got a real angle on morality.

I've been thinking about mechanisms that cause Dunning Kruger style irony. Maybe one of them goes like this. It starts with people who can't think straight. Maybe they're stuck in traffic, metaphorically. Their brain goes all fight-or-flight, and stops being able to analyze anything complicated. Instead it processes the world with very simple rules. "The light is green! Move forward! What are you, stupid?!" But the world is filled with complex cause and effect. A therefore B therefore C. So the simple rules don't work. And when you apply rules that don't work, you make the situation worse. Your contribution was the opposite of helpful. You exacerbate the very problem that got you so worked up in the first place.

If I'm onto something here, then it would be pretty ironic to yell at my uncle and demand he adopt a more reasonable attitude. That would be like honking at somebody for honking too much. It's like, you won't get very far shooting at hate groups in Texas. I'd need to figure out why he's stuck in traffic in the first place. The root cause is more important than the symptoms. And, indeed, the family rumor mill whispers to me about a laundry list of crises I can't really help him with. He's got to work through that stuff on his own. Frankly, it's a wonder he isn't crazier than he is. So what can I do. Show him some love and not take him too seriously I guess.